What does is mean to be a “love addict”?

What does it mean to be a "love addict"? A "love addict" is someone who becomes dependent on, and enmeshed with, a relationship and the attention of another, to the extent that their life becomes unmanageable. The love addict typically demands an exaggerated level of reassurance, and needs to know immediately that the love they [...]

3 Ways to Defeat Love Withdrawal

When a relationship ends, the love addict is plunged into love withdrawal, a state not dissimilar to coming off a drug, because in essence, that’s exactly what it is. Here are 3 ways to defeat love withdrawal and come out the other side stronger, and more emotionally independent. Forgive yourself if you are stuck in [...]

8 Practical Tips to Help You Break Free

If you are stuck in an addictive relationship you may find these practical tips of benefit: Do something you are passionate about. Choose something that gives your life meaning and purpose. Remember, this has happened to you as you have “projected” all that you are, and all your passion onto the person of addiction. Stop [...]

Is your relationship mutually balanced?

Is your relationship in balance? As a relationship therapist, couples’ counsellor and love addiction specialist, my experience has taught me that the way we love is often at the heart of an emotionally withholding, damaging, addictive and co-dependent relationship. And the way we love is ultimately influenced by whether or not the love equilibrium is [...]

I feel like we are soul mates. So why doesn’t he feel the same way?

Last week I was in a session with a client of mine, Sarah.* During our conversation Sarah said something to me that I’ve heard literally hundreds of times during my time as a relationship therapist and love addiction specialist. Here’s what she said: “He feels like my soul mate, it feels so right, and so [...]

Loving too much is not a love story

Loving too much is not a love story: surviving an addictive relationship Loving too much is when “being in love is experienced as being in emotional pain,” Robin Norwood (Women Who Love Too Much, 1985). For over 25 years I have been working as a relationship therapist, grief counsellor, couples’ therapist and a specialist in [...]

Heartbreak: why do we get heartbroken – and how do we survive it?

Heartbreak: why do we get heartbroken – and how do we survive it? In my work as a professional relationship counsellor, couples’ therapist and love addiction specialist, I work every day with people who know first-hand the emotional pain of heartbreak, and the traumatic aftermath of rejection and loss. Whilst thinking about the emotional pain [...]

The Secret to a Stronger Emotional Connection in Your Relationship or Marriage

7 ways to save your marriage How to Save a Failing Marriage! You and your partner may feel as if you are "living alone together", which is often the first sign of a failing marriage or relationship. One that has lost its way. A relationship which is broken lacks communication and so you [...]