STEP 12

1 Traumatic Symptoms of Love Addiction

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.” Eleanor Roosevelt

Workbook Recommendation

Having watched this video I recommend you read the section starting with the chapter called “How long did it take you to get through this Helen?” which you will find on pages 54 to 66.

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them” Maya Angelou

2 Recognising how you have responded

Reflecting on the video above. How much have you related to each of the symptoms of Love Addiction? Feel free to write things down in your notebook.

  • Panic
  • Love Withdrawal – like drug withdrawal
  • Anxious Attachment
  • Obsession
  • Fixation
  • Insecurity
  • Feeling bereft with loss,
  • Heartbroken
  • Lovesick
  • Chronic Vulnerability
  • Intense Sense of Rejection
  • Possessiveness & Jealousy
  • Dysfunctional Communication
  • A Desperation to be Heard and Understood
  • Idealizing
  • Attachment Hunger – Clinging
  • Worthlessness
  • Powerlessness
  • Chronically Low Self Esteem
  • Loss of Reality
  • Game Playing
  • Fantasy/Denial

Which of the above have you experienced?

Choosing just one example, if you were to meet someone who was also experiencing the same symptom, what would you tell them? What would you share with them?
In a minute close your eyes and picture the two of you, in a safe place, having a relaxed conversation as two friends.
Allow the conversation to flow naturally and within your imagination notice what comes up as you discuss with them this particular symptom, which up till now has been a problem for you.

Close your eyes… 

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