How to Enhance Communication, Empathy, Mutual Respect and Happiness in Your Relationship

Are you really communicating with your partner? The love of another person can offer us the keys to greater self-knowledge and a secure emotional attachment bond. Only when we have this are we able to get to the very heart of who we are on an authentic level. This is because mutual, healthy love [...]

The Philosophy behind my Love Addiction and Heartbreak Recovery Programme

How can one person whom we love so much rock the very foundation of who we are? And how can we recover, heal and move past these feelings of loss and grief, once this emotional attachment bond has been broken? Those are the questions I’d like to answer right now. The following is [...]

Jealousy: what it is, and how to get past it

For help with feelings of jealousy please click on the image. Jealousy... It’s a horrid way to be feeling, but who among us can say we’ve never experienced it? The worst kind, though, in my opinion, is when we experience the pricklings of suspicion and doubt in our love relationships, feeling jealous of those with [...]

Why can I not let go?

For help with the fear of abandonment please click on the image. The fear of abandonment in an addictive relationship Throughout my career as a couples’ therapist and love addiction specialist, I have seen countless people clinging desperately to a relationship that they know is harming them. Whether they know this explicitly or on some [...]

What does is mean to be a “love addict”?

For help with love addiction or with any of the symptoms described on this page please click on the image above. What does it mean to be a "love addict"? A "love addict" is someone who becomes dependent on, and enmeshed with, a relationship and the attention of another, to the extent that their life [...]

3 Ways to Defeat Love Withdrawal

For help with love withdrawal please click on the image. When a relationship ends, the love addict is plunged into love addiction withdrawal, a state not dissimilar to coming off a drug, because in essence, that’s exactly what it is. Here are 3 ways to defeat love withdrawal and come out the [...]

8 Practical Tips to Help You Break Free

For help with addictive relationships please click on the image. If you are stuck in an addictive relationship you may find these practical tips of benefit: Do something you are passionate about. Choose something that gives your life meaning and purpose. Remember, this has happened to you as you have “projected” all [...]

Is your relationship mutually balanced?

For help with love equilibrium please click on the image. Is your relationship in balance? As a relationship therapist, couples’ counsellor and love addiction specialist, my experience has taught me that the way we love is often at the heart of an emotionally withholding, damaging, addictive and co-dependent relationship. And the way we love is [...]

I feel like we are soul mates. So why doesn’t he feel the same way?

For help with unrequited love please click on the image. Last week I was in a session with a client of mine, Sarah.* During our conversation Sarah said something to me that I’ve heard literally hundreds of times during my time as a relationship therapist and love addiction specialist. Here’s what she [...]

Loving too much is not a love story

For help with painful love please click on the image. Loving too much is not a love story: surviving an addictive relationship Loving too much is when “being in love is experienced as being in emotional pain,” Robin Norwood (Women Who Love Too Much, 1985). For over 25 years I have been working as a [...]

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