Helen Mia Harris's Narcissism Test

Narcissistic Relationship Test:

Select Yes for any of the following statements which you can relate to.

Do you lie to others about your partner’s real behaviour?

Yes

Do you feel helpless because you’re constantly trying to “understand” your partner’s behaviour?

Yes

Do you make allowances for your partner with others, i.e. he/she isn’t feeling well today?

Yes

Is your partner unpredictable so that you fear/dread going home in case he/she is in one of “those moods”?

Yes

Do you feel as though you can’t do anything right unless he/she approves of your decision?

Yes

Does your partner withhold sending you a text message or phoning in order to “make” you feel anxious or even jealous? (Please note that this is by far one of the most punishing games a narcissist can do to gain control and render you powerless)

Yes

Does rejection play a huge part in your relationship, especially after an argument? And as a consequence, do you fear abandonment?

Yes

Does your partner keep you from seeing friends and family?

Yes

Does your partner disapprove and speak lowly of your friends, acquaintances and family?

Yes

Do you leave with good intentions to begin a life alone, yet return to the relationship as soon as he/she promised it will be different?

Yes

Do they minimise, mock or insult what you think or say in public or together? (Note: this can be done to keep you small and lower your self-confidence)

Yes

Does your partner tell you that no one else would ever want you? (Please note, this is to keep you weak and dependent on them)

Yes

Are you checked or picked up on the slightest thing that he/she disapproves of?

Yes

If you are potentially running late from work or miss a train, do you panic and become anxious for fear that your partner “thinks” you are lying to them? (Please note, the narcissist is paranoid about being lied to)

Yes

Are you continually accused of having an affair or being promiscuous? If yes, does your partner call you “unacceptable” names that no one has ever called you before?

Yes

Is your partner’s behaviour worse if they have been drinking alcohol?

Yes

If your partner threatens to leave, do you beg and plead with them not to go for fear of abandonment and rejection?

Yes

If you are in a broken state like above, do they become emotionally cold and unavailable as if they “enjoy” seeing you needy?

Yes

Are you always walking on egg shells for fear his/her anger will erupt?

Yes

When you get in to a dispute, do you feel that your “mind is in a mincer” confused as to how the argument began and how to resolve it?

Yes

Do you feel interrogated, as if a bright light looms over your every word with “yes” and “no” answers only?

Yes

Have you changed the way you are, your natural personality and your spontaneity, for fear of provoking your partner’s anger?

Yes

Does your partner have low self-esteem?

Yes

Did you have low self-esteem before you met your partner?

Yes

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