When people speak and I listen, things happen. I enable people to have a voice and enable them to truly express themselves.
When people come to me and are finally able to find their words, they encounter a deep, attentive response from me and a transformation occurs. Blocks are removed, anxiety is allayed and conflict is resolved. This is the simplest way to put it.
I have studied and trained in several disciplines, including psychoanalysis, psychotherapy, grief and loss counselling and NLP Life Coaching. However, this has only provided the academic methods of putting into more or less abstract words something which I have always known needs to be done, in and with words, when I am with my clients.
It is always the same, whether I am working with an individual, a couple, a family, a group or the entire staff of a company or institution. If I am given the space and time needed to enter deeply into a given situation, the words always come and moments of transformation arise.
It is always different because people, their histories and their stories, their fantasies and traumas are unique and every fresh encounter with a client is a radical and transforming opening to the new, the unexpected and the real.
In my sessions with people it is helpful to recognise patterns of behaviours and to understand what those patterns may indicate. For example when I hear a couple speak of their challenges, their dispute, their conflict, I hear the fear of being misunderstand, feeling invisible or not being acknowledged enough by their partner, lovable enough to be heard, appreciated enough to be seen, and most of all for many, fundamentally misunderstood. Sometimes the very simple act of humanising problems, present and past hurts, sheds an important light on the relationship and with this an understanding of something that has often lay dormant over many years. With this truth comes a sense of being worthy enough to wholeheartedly cultivate authenticity and engage in what they need to let go of in order to feel good enough again and happy enough to live a fulfilling passionate life.
This is how I work and each session make a tangible difference to any tender and sensitive issue. I work with individuals, couples, families, groups and organisations.
Human life itself may be almost pure chaos, but the work of the person suffering difficulty in their life, is to take these handfuls of confusion and disparate things that seem to be irreconcilable, and put them together in a frame to give them some kind of shape and meaning