Rejection In Relationships

Q1: Could you tell us what you mean about the love equilibrium being unbalanced in the first phase of romantic love and how this relates to rejection in the very beginning of a relationship?

If the experience of love is more intense for one than the other, it may well mean that the love equilibrium is unbalanced. This then lays the ground for love addiction and co-dependency, as rejection will more often than not be experienced when one partner may yearn for what the other is unable to give. This can throw the person prone to rejection into a debilitating sense of feeling unlovable or unworthy of anyone returning their love, as the love is unrequited.

Q2: How is rejection felt when love is unrequited?

Rejection is one of the most painful experiences in the love relationship as it’s often because the experience of love is unrequited, not reciprocated, rather than a mutual attraction. Therefore, one person feels far more than the other with more intensity and passion. This can catapult some people into a deep sense of emptiness and feel a sense of unworthiness at the core of their being.

Q3: You mentioned in your event on “The Ways We Love” that rejection can become one of the most self punishing ways we can be hurt by someone else, as it is experienced as self blame, shame, humiliation and the literal feeling that we are not wanted by the other person for whom we hold a romantic affection.

My work is about helping people to experience their own sense of worth, self-validation and self-esteem. I help them shield against the excruciating vulnerability when they are suffering rejection. Therefore, instead of taking rejection as a “personal affliction”, it becomes something to embrace and become more connected to and this can enhance their own sense of belonging and worthiness of love.

Q4: Could you highlight some useful tips or benefits to be gained from participating in your 90 minute Recovery Programme?

In my 90 minute Recovery Programme, I concentrate on some of the most debilitating and raw emotions that surround rejection and abandonment. My Programmes are designed to enhance insight and self-understanding and to reverse self-abandonment by strengthening a sense of self. The purpose of the Programme is to help people to become emotionally free by approaching love, life and relationships in an entirely different way.

Here are some really useful steps that will help you overcome rejection. I work through each of these stages in my 90 minute Recovery Programme. I’ve helped many people through the painful affects of rejection and abandonment and I believe that it is possible to ease the pain and help you turn the end of a relationship in to a whole new chapter in your life.