Unrequited love and rejection is by far one of the most painful things that can happen to us in the love relationship, as we experience longing, despair and yearning for our love to be reciprocated. Accepting rejection is difficult as it feels like it is ourselves we should blame.
Ourselves that are not good enough; and ourselves that are no longer appealing to the loved one. Some may ask; is it that I am not desirable, not lovable, not worthy enough for him or her? Am I too old, too young, too fat, too thin, too short, too tall, too feminine, too masculine, too quiet, too shy, too open or too closed, or is it that I will never be loved? Yes, these are just some of the questions from those who have been rejected in love. Rejection is experienced as one of the most primal of all fears as being loved, receiving love and giving love is the most fundamental thing that make us who we are…perhaps this is why many are in a constant search for romantic love and union and when that feeling of love is rejected, it catapults them back in to the beginning of time, in to a very alone and scary place with no arms to hold them….tight enough.
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Self-blame and unworthiness sit at the bedrock of rejection and what is experienced in the hearts of many is a vacuous space that shuts out all the light and with it, the hope of one day finding the perfect person that will complete us. Whilst I was thinking about love and rejection, I came across this quote by Dorothy Tennov: